I probably already know the answer before I post, but it just gets frustrating.

We have had plenty of success via reddit - but mostly with guys. We have played with four couples total over the last couple of years, but it's such a pain to make happen.

We see other couples post; if we reach out, the response rate is roughly fifty percent. A decent number of couples reach out to us, but they seldom go anywhere.

In both cases, it seems like most of the situations are guys who have had one conversation with their wife, but realize she's not really on board. Or it's just a fantasy thing altogether for them. We exchange a few messages, then they almost always ghost.

That said, we do require STD tests... it's shocking to me how often that's a dealbreaker. The overwhelming majority of people in Alabama aren't tested and won't get it done - even though you can do so for free at home.

We see that in guys as well, of course... but there are so many more guys that it's not THAT tough to find options. Couples, though... ugh.

I know that I'm just another guy. My wife is quite hot, however. But hell, so much of the ghosting happens before pics are even sent.

Lol... and then, there's the collection of folks who post, ignore our chat, then keep posting that they can't find anybody. Why not at least chat and see if we are looking for the same things? Are y'all just trolling for compliments and not actually looking?

It's just annoying and baffling to me.

Okay, rant over.