He isn't taking care of his house or his problems.

This weekend he explained he's afraid that tree branches are going to fall on his house and if that happens he's going to have to walk away. He has no insurance.

He's told me several times he wants to leave his home but does nothing to put himself in a spot to leave.

Is it weird I've been giving him weed?

When I asked about what he wanted to do he told me he doesn't want anyone at his place without me there. He won't call anyone and wants me to do it for him. Telling me he needs emotional support.

He's embarrassed of his place and doesn't want anyone to see it, especially the bathroom.

And the bathroom is bad. The shower has multiple colors ranging from black to green.

He's been living and smoking in the same place for 17 years. He told me he wiped a cabinet down and realized how much tar was built up on it. I pointed out that stuff is in your lungs too - of course he knows and maybe I shouldn't have said anything.

I called the local maintenance guy and company about his roof (needs to be replaced.)

I recommended Mom could help clean if he compensated her. They're not together and I don't think he likes her much but she's looking for things to do on the weekends instead of spending them at home. I think she enjoys cleaning as it's her way of helping people. I'll probably call a cleaning company and see what their rates are.

On one hand I shouldn't be doing this for him. He's a grown man and has never really gotten his shit together - though neither have I but I at least try. On the other hand, I can't not help him, right? I look at him and see this injured animal.

We've (my brother and I) been trying to get him to play a new tabletop game. For a few years now he's only wanted to play a specific one. This past weekend, I dealt him into a game of Monopoly deal and wow was he apprehensive in joining and when he did he kept down talking himself and I had to keep encouraging him. It's like he thought we'd make fun of him for not knowing how to play and being bad. I explained different aspects as we went along and gave him advice as he played. It was such a weird experience, I have to do the same with my mom.

In a roundabout way he told me today that he cleaned toilets because of us kids. That he wanted to do something different with his life. All I could think is, then why didn't you? Mom had us kids most of the time and she found time to go to trucking school, get her CDL and started driving semi trucks (only for a year or two though.)

What a strange relationship.