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Hello,
I (33M) have only been lurking a few days and haven't really commented on anything as of yet. I am however lurking for a reason, my partner (32F) is my Q, her drinking has steadily become a problem over the last 2 years (we have been together 6 in October) the drinking started because of a misunderstanding in relation to myself and a female friend I've known since my teen years (no contact with said friend anymore, not for any reason other than it seemed to naturally move in different directions).
For the last 12 months roughly I have been trying to attempt to get her to slow down her drinking, even suggesting a break here and there to no avail. In the last 6 months it seems to have really escalated (at work during the day but evening 4 pint cans, and weekends drinking a whole crate sometimes more from 8am both days.)
2 weeks ago we had a huge blow up and she said she would stop for a while, got to day 4 and relapsed then drank heavily for the next 5 days. I took some time away last weekend and told her it was because she has repeatedly told me there would be change (only serious attempt was 2 weeks ago) and there hasn't been any, and this constantly being let down is causing me great pain and that it's clear that this information isn't enough for her to stop so I needed to recalibrate.
Since I came back she hasn't drank since Tuesday (as far as I am aware, she is currently 4 hours away visiing grandparents so could have relapsed and I would know.) during the 2 breaks she has hd quiet bad symptoms like tremors etc and despite this has told me that she intends to do a 1 month break and then limit herself to weekends.
The problem I forsee is this is how we got to 8am on weekends and during the week in the first place was weekend drinking? Am I insane for having this worry? Or thinking this ain't a good idea?
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