Context is I’m late twenties male still living with my parents. I move out in two months so honestly I won’t have to be around it soon which is amazing. But I do care about him. My dad gets drunk off beer almost every night. He is nice enough and not abusive, but it’s still triggering. He’s a completely different person. It’s like I’m talking to this adult baby whose overly positive and happy and not willing to be real with the world, which is definitely to his detriment.

I want to come at this from an empathic angle obviously, but I would be lying if I said I didn’t have a lot of resentment. I’m going to hold my tongue on saying some things that I would like to say, and I’m going to keep it to whatever is most effective for him to hear.

I briefly brought it up over two years ago, and he said it was because work is kinda shitty and it sucks being at work, and then he comes home which is also kinda shitty. The former, being kinda a blame on my mom/his wife, which she can be difficult but I think he’s using it as an excuse.

I want to potentially touch on the topic of depression with him, why he might be drinking, support options he has, whether he considers this a severe addiction or not, and what he pictures for his future.

What are your thoughts on that? Please give suggestions thanks so much