Hey everyone. I can't believe I'm just now finding this sub. If it's okay, I'd like to hear the opinions of others more experienced than me. I'll sum up the events leading to our current situation.

I'm 26, dad is 78. We moved in together 1.5 years ago. Before then, he lived in an independent living/apartment building. His mobility and breathing aren't great, but still better than any time in the last 15 years. He uses a Jazzy Power Chair to get around. He's always been pretty big. About 280 lbs.

He had his daily habits and methods of doing what he needed. He was able to go to Wal-Mart, church or anywhere else whenever he wanted. He could walk just enough to not need the Jazzy Chair when out and about. He's always been a very friendly, extroverted, never met a stranger kind of guy. He's diabetic, he has COPD, sleep apnea. He takes meds for blood pressure, insulin for blood sugar, a pill for sleep and various other things like Potassium.

So here's the situation. All was well until a large hurricane hit our city in Florida and just about demolished it. He was out of town at the time. My apartment crumbled to the ground. The independent facility he lived in was so damaged that they had to close down and have everyone find other accommodations. So we decided to skip town and moved up into Alabama.

Our family has always been a mess, with all my siblings being in active addiction. One passed away, one is in and out of jail and prison. My mother's been remarried for 15 years, but him and her get along great. All other family lives far away and they don't hardly communicate with us anymore. So I'm all that he has.

We luckily found a cheap apartment with elder care features, like wide hallways and hand rails in the bathroom. Since moving up here, he lost his ambition. I assumed it was depression or the idea of learning a new town (it's a rather small town). As time went buy, he stopped leaving the house, his health started getting worse and he did nothing about any of it. His ability to walk decreased quickly.

I finally got him set up with a doctor and pharmacy. He started going to Wal-Mart by himself sometimes. I work full time, so I do what I can.

Here's the core issue. For the last couple months, he suddenly started getting dizzy and confused. He's fallen a few times (no injuries), he can't work his phone or TV remote and he's scared to even try using the bathroom in the middle of the night. At first, his insulin was causing this. He would inject it and suddenly be unable to do anything for a few days. So his doctor got him a different one. His doctor also required him to switch sleep meds because he's currently on Xanax. No one here wants to prescribe it. Every new sleep med has messed him up quite a bit. So after a couple days he went back to taking the Xanax at night.

Now almost a month later, and he's still dizzy and confused. He acts like he's suddenly in a later stage dementia. But he's still taking all the same meds as he ever has. No matter what we do, he can't get back to normal. We now have a nurse coming over 3 days a week. But now i have to help him go to the bathroom at night, he hasn't showered in a couple months, I'm cooking his meals and other daily stuff. It's all been so quick and sudden. Even though everything is the same, something has to be different. Maybe his blood sugar is out of whack, maybe his oxygen settings aren't good any more. I have no idea. I'm about to try pushing for more nurse visits and for them to help him bathe. I'm trying to take him to the doctor every week until it's figured out. Honestly, I'm ready to take him to the hospital. I'm afraid that if this continues, he's going too hurt himself. It's happened too quickly for me to keep up with the required level of care. I'm scared to even leave him alone while I go to work.

We have no family to help, we have no idea what to do or how to find what's causing this. Every day counts. Any day could be the day he gets seriously injured or falls when I'm at work. He can't remember to keep his phone on him.

Sorry for the long post. Thanks to anyone that read all this. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated. I'm out of my league on this. And it's heart breaking to see this quick decline.