First post here so not sure if this is the proper place but apologies if not.

Me and my dad have been on our own for 8 years now. I’m mid 20s just starting my career and looking to buy my first house. My dad is late 60s and his health has gone down hill quick the past couple years.

He was in the army and jumped out of airplanes so he has neck, back and leg problems. He falls on almost a daily basis and even though im 10 min away he doesn’t call me all the time when he falls. He has cute and scabs from his falls. He has that old army mindset that he is still as tough as nails but he can’t take those falls consistently. On top of that he was recently diagnosed with Parkinson’s so that def doesn’t help. He doesn’t get out much and drinks at home alone.

I’ve been looking at how he could improve his lifestyle and a lot of it is mental. Him being alone at home and always in pain with no motivation to go out besides medical appointments. I have though about him moving in with me or me moving in with him but we do have a tendency to argue a lot when we live together and I know I can suck it up but the arguments between us used to be so bad I don’t want to risk having our relationship hurt.

I have looked into an assisted living complex that is very luxurious. It’s not entirely assisted as they have levels, and I feel he would be best in the independent category that doesn’t have someone checking on him 24/7. 2 bed apartments, 24/7 healthcare on-site if needed, resort pool, dinning room with great meals, grab and go meals, activities , bars, theaters and best yet the VA he goes to is literally right behind it. He would also get to socialize a lot more as there would be other military vets living there so he can def make a lot of friends and interact daily as he pleases.

I had the thought that putting him in one might be bad since he is relatively young but his condition Is just so bad right now I think he could benefit from socializing as he living in a community with a lot of younger military people he can’t relate as much too. Ontop of that if he does fall or have an emergency he has callers in his apartment to alert the medical staff on-site. Has anyone else had a similar situation? I think it would be good for him but I don’t want to feel as if he’s going into a “nursing home” when it’s nice. I also wouldn’t push him if he didn’t want it.