This is my first time posting on Reddit, and I’m feeling hopeful. I’m looking for someone with whom I can build a connection that stands the test of time. Blind trust and loyalty are non-negotiable for me. My ultimate goal is marriage and family.

A bit about me:
- I’m a Yale graduate.
- I work in tech. - I’m athletic and like staying fit.
- I’m widowed (no kids).
- I want kids.
- I have my life in order and looking for a serious, lifelong commitment. - I believe that the roles of a wife and mother complement each other. I’m not searching for an initial spark but rather a steady flame that burns throughout a lifetime of marriage.
- Due to my job and being on my own, I’ve got to be decisive. However, I have tons and tons of feminine energy and would love to be in a relationship where my husband takes the lead while I handle operational aspects. A healthy balance of energy is a must for me. - I’m a practicing Muslim. I pray five times a day, fast. I don’t wear hijab. And I am open to anyone with whom my goals and values mainly align(not necessarily religion). I just need my partner to be respectful of my practices and belief as I'd do the same. - I am not interested in casual dating. Please don't message if you are. - I’m loyal and persistent to a fault. - Life will always have uncertainties, and I am someone who stays and works through challenges. I never have and never will run or escape under any circumstances, no matter how difficult it gets. - I don’t drink, smoke, or use substances.
- I'm Southeast Asian, 5'3, 104lbs.

What I’m looking for:
- Someone who has his life in order and is dating with the intention to marry and have kids.
- Honesty and loyalty are absolute musts.
- Likes staying active. Someone who takes their physical and mental health seriously. - Persistent and can hold a meaningful conversation.
- Comfortable taking on a leadership role and making decisions for his household. - Willing to put in daily effort to nurture a strong relationship.
- A man who doesn’t escape or start swiping at the first sign of difficulty. - Please don’t lie, I cannot stand dishonesty in any relationship, let alone a lifelong one.

I am more than willing to listen, bring in warmth, good food and love into your life, and stand by your side through every high and low. Both chemistry and compatibility matter, so I’m open to exchanging pictures, if our values align.

I was married for eight years, and I like stability. I make a conscious effort to keep my own life interesting and would do the same in a relationship. However, I understand that stability and predictability can sometimes be mistaken for boredom. I need a partner who is realistic, puts effort into their own goals, supports mine, and values shared goals to keep life fulfilling. Resilience is essential in a relationship, and I’m looking for someone who understands that and is willing to put in the work to build a strong and lasting one.

If you're looking for something similar, send me a message with your age, location and what you're looking for in a relationship.