Hey guys,

I’m looking for someone chivalrous, kind, slow to anger, and ambitious. We’d have a lot in common if you participated in outdoor recreation (like stand up paddle boards, kayaking, sailing, camping (not glamping), hiking, ziplining, running), listened to motivational media, and focused on a holistic lifestyle. Maturity, self improvement and being a dog lover is a must. I’m interested in being a SAH homesteader (i.e. the husband is the breadwinner while I manage the household) or a 50/50 more modern relationship where we both hold professional careers. Regardless of the dynamic, I’m not interested in relocating so Portland, OR or bust 😊 I am looking for a man that wants to lead whether we homestead or both have careers. There is a difference between being controlling and being a leader. A good man in charge is enthusiastic about it but also understands the burden they have of leading me and taking care of my needs (emotionally, spiritually, and mentally). It’s not all sex satisfaction and “follow my rules”. My trust is a privilege that’s has to be earned and maintained.

I am an ambitious and driven woman with strong morale values and teasing is my love language. I have a blue collar career that I love. Dating me will likely require sacrificing your personal space, an understanding that health is wealth, and nurturing me as I continue to grow. I see life as a marathon where the whole point is to develop yourself into someone better so that you can do more — more for your family, your community, your purpose, whatever. But you should always be doing something. There is too much to experience in life to sit around saying “I’m bored” or complain. I do not want to be your reason to start. I want to be the reflection of determination and self discipline you know it has taken to perfect your craft. What I am offering is devotion, loyalty, and support. I’m affectionate and I will look up to you. I will find strength with you there and you’ll be my #1 person - above friends and family. This will all happen over time and organically so don’t worry, I’m not going from 0 to 100 after a week of messaging.

Because I believe in honesty and being forthcoming, I’ll list a couple qualities I think are my biggest red flags:
🚩 I am away for work half my life (with minimal cell reception/wifi). We’d be a LDR for some length of time.
🚩 My morales are my greatest priority. If I think you’re doing something immoral, it’s going to be rough. (I’m Catholic, but I’m quite accepting of other beliefs or agnostics. I don’t believe in forcing a religion on someone, but I do believe in being a good person)
🚩 I’d like to adopt or be a stepmom rather than birth children. I want to help take care of someone who had a rough start and give them a better ending.

And a couple red flags I’m avoiding:
🚩Ambiguity in your purpose/goal
🚩Plays video games
🚩Dishonest (including half-truths)
🚩Can’t stand up to me or friends/family/coworkers
🚩Disrespectful

Here are some great topics we can start off on because I know talking can be hard:
What did you learn about anger from your parents?
What gives you hope?
What is the best advice someone gave you?
What is the worst advice someone gave you?
What lesson do you wish people could learn if you had the world’s attention for 5 minutes?

Best of luck to everyone out there searching!