I'm a healthy older nerd, raised on punk rock, hair salons, and ocean spray from Long Beach to the PNW. As a child of divorce, I got along with women much more than men, and lost out on a lot of the traditional male hobbies growing up, so I had to figure a lot out on my own. Thankfully it made me very self sufficient and allowed me to learn how to think and learn for myself. Now this isn't to say I'm incapable of holding a hammer. The guy who raised me made sure of that, in between summers tossing hay bales, and chasing girls.

As for hobbies, I'm a golfer, a gamer, I like road trips, cinema (TV and movies), music from almost every genre, keeping my yard clean, good coffee, losing myself in a crowd, exploring new cities, the desert, and singing to the music.

I'm a pragmatist, yet I enjoy challenging myself for the sake of it when things get a little boring. I'll use a map, but only to find my way after a detour. I'm a competition junky, but put a lot of energy into sportsmanship, and get really into being a coach when the stakes are low. On the flip-side of that I enjoy getting my ass handed to me and always come back for more. I learn by doing, and losing is a part of winning.

My goal in life is to help people. Be it teaching them how to get better at a hobby we share, being an open ear, assisting as a special olympics coach, or just helping an old man out of his chair then I see him wobbling trying to stand up. I'm a very positive person, a pacifist, and an abstract thinker.

In reality, I'm a romantic, but recently, my dating life has become pretty stagnant as I'm looking for something specific, and I'd rather not waste my time anymore on people with whom I can't see a future. Because I want it all. I want marriage. I want kids, (even if they're not mine.) With the right person that shit just doesn't matter.

So here it is. I'm looking for a spicy little princess with sharp claws, a good heart, a love for helping others and someone who still craves submission from time to time. I won't lie. I have a dominant side. And I think a good partner for me wants the push and pull. Show me the sharp tongue so I can “retaliate”. Pick on me so I can pick on you. Let's challenge each other. Build each other up. Find each other's soft spots. Find trust. Find respect. And then take over the world.