I am speaking now to that woman who wants something different, who has seen what's on offer in the world and finds it wanting, that woman who, deep in her heart, longs for a meaningful adventure on a different road. I've always been my own man, gone my own way, done things differently than society thinks I should. And to that woman who fits the above description I have some things to say. Most of them will be said in private as I'm not going to put everything here. But I will share just enough here to hopefully get the attention of the right woman. Deeper discussions will follow.

The truth is, from my earliest moments of coherence as a little boy up to the moment when my marriage fell apart in 2022, all I EVER wanted to be in life was a husband. Nothing else mattered to me. It was like... a calling, I guess. Even as a boy I watched how husbands and wives interacted and knew that that was what I wanted. In my early 20s I read almost every book about love and relationships and marriage that I could get my hands on. I learned my love languages very early. I met my ex wife when I was 28, married her the next year, and was with her for almost 17 years before the whole thing abruptly came crashing down. I made a lot of mistakes in my marriage, mistakes that cost me, mistakes that I learned from. I went through a terrible grieving process afterward. And then, when enough healing took place, I tried the dating scene and found it horrifically unsuitable for me.

So now, as a man who still feels this calling to be a husband, having been single, then married, then divorced, then in grief, then in recovery, and then in the dating scene, I have learned SOOOO much about what I want, what I don't want, what works, what doesn't work, and what needs to happen to actually make a marriage work. Here's something I've learned: marriages fail because they begin wrong. The entire premise of romantic love in the 21st century is completely erroneous, and that faulty premise is causing a lot of confusion, pain, grief, and divorces.

I have a vision for something different. Something that draws upon the lost wisdom of our ancestors, something that by its very nature lays a foundation for something much, much stronger than most relationships today ever experience. So if any of what I've said so far has made you curious, come talk to me. I will share my vision with you. I will tell you my views of love and what I think it means. I'm not looking for an arranged marriage, no, but I'm looking for something very close to it. And I have a lot of evidence and the testimony of human history on my side. I invite you to hear me out. Unless you've got something far more interesting to do with your time.

I will leave you with this advice. Stop looking for your soulmate. You will never find one by looking. Soulmates aren't found. They are crafted over time between two people who are willing do to the work of that crafting.

P.S. I'm seeking child-free only.