About me, I'm an older M living just outside of London, UK. Separated. I live alone and can host. Retired with no money cares. I was in a long term relationship till the end of last year and have just now come out of a 6 month one. I was hoping this was the one but sadly we couldn't make it work. I tried, I'm not happy but sometimes you've just got to move on. My LTR liked me to take control, preferred answering questions to asking..a lot..

I was her shoulder and the stability in her life. She was open about that and that is what she wanted. I am happy with that kind of relationship, I appeared to do a lot of the work, but actually she effused wonderful waves of love and fun, and endearing eagerness. I'm happy with this sort of relationship again. More recently we were getting closer by the day, but fears of intimacy got in the way for her, I thought she was the one.

About me, I'm a reader but don't read enough quality books - atm its Bonfire if the Vanities. I love spending time with my friends, I have some real weirdo friends and some very erudite sophisticated ones too. I travel. A lot. I have been in Australasia, India and the Middle East/Africa this year so far.

I run, I cycle but not just for physical health but mental well being too. I love my food probably more than I should, so I'm not slim, but I'm not fat either.

You can see the qualities I am comfortable with. Don't be weird, but you can be a little crazy. Looking for someone to travel a lot with & do more weekends away with etc! So much of the U.K. (world) I haven’t seen which feels a waste.

If you think we might get along please send me a message, no age rejected. Not a big fan of dyed red/blue /pink (insert colour) hair or tats/piercings, but that's not a deal breaker. I'm not in a rush, we have plenty of time to chat, get to know each other.

If you are anxious, awkward...... if you are the "I'm not sure, why would he want me" type, introverted and need coaxing then DM me you are just perfect I can take it from there. If you are a lurker who never posts, has never posted DM me, that's what you are lurking for. If you have never contacted anyone online...or offline and that's why you are online, and you are terrified, worried it could all go wrong - it won't, worried someone whom you don't want to may find out - they won't, DM me. If you are super shy, super anxious, worried you can't hold a conversation.... just DM me .

It's not the first time I've posted, so if you've seen this before and messaged its likely (probably a certainty) that you didn't take any notice of the bit about chatting. I'm not interested in flash-in-the-pan-hookups. If you message me and I message you back....it has to be a two way conversation for it to work, they are not my rules, and you won't need to say much back if you are nervous at the start. But it's not a short term relationship I'm looking for and *its not all about sex*.