If you get the reference without the help of Google, you're already a keeper in my book.

So hello, I'm Vito. About me: I'm 46 male St. Louis. 50% Sicilian. Old-school. Divorced, no kids, INFP, a C-PTSD survivor, loner/introvert, cat dad, writer/musician/artist (and some time substitute teacher), bookworm, inked, somewhat pierced, hippie-ish, and an utter hopeless romantic. I love history and documentaries and comedy and Netflix and literature and old movies from the 40s and Harry Potter (Slytherin) and Star Wars and LOTR and traveling and yet being a homebody at the same time. I work from home and spend most of my life in pajamas. When I get out, I love to hike, sample new restaurants, go to museums or similar, see a baseball game (go Cards!), or just spend a day on a blanket at the park, reading or strumming my guitar. I can cook pasta that will blow your mind and I'm a fair griller. I'm not handy at all, nor am I great with managing money (here's hoping you are!). I was a hardcore atheist for a long time, but now I've come to strongly feel that there is something out there, although it's certainly nothing like any of the gods humans venerate. The only religion I have room for in my life is the Grateful Dead. But I do find Buddhism very attractive. Let's see... what else? Oh, I'm entirely apolitical (owing to my status as a Deadhead), but I am quite pro-choice as I've seen firsthand, through the terrible woes of my ex-SIL, just how badly women need this freedom. But I really don't care who is in the White House. The world has gone to shit either way, so. Uhhh... possible turnoffs: I'm a heavy weed user, I smoke Black & Mild cigarillos every day, and a tobacco pipe occasionally. I'm short, 5'6. All the men in my family have big heads, big hearts, and that small Sicilian frame. I can be quite dominant in the bedroom. Some women do not like that. And perhaps my greatest sin and possible turnoff is this: for reasons that have nothing to do with slavery, I would've fought for the South in the Civil War (perhaps let me explain that before you throw any stones at me).

My marriage of 17 years fell apart two years ago. Since then life has mostly been about putting all the broken pieces back together. But some pieces are missing because they just shattered into powder. I've been struggling lately with sadness and loneliness on a level I didn't even know was possible. I do not miss my ex-wife, but I do miss having someone. I miss the companionship, partnership, and just having someone to vent to or goof off with. I miss sleeping next to someone. I've stuffed pillows under the covers on the other side of the bed to simulate a person, and I sometimes spoon them just for the comfort. But it's no match for the warm body of a loving woman. I miss that. I need that. And that is why I'm posting. I'm seeking something serious, a connection based authentic conversation and the sort of intimacy that comes from intellectual and emotional vulnerability. I'm NOT here to sext. My Instagram is oldschoolscoundrel5 if you want to see what I look like and what I'm about.

P.S. If you are a Swiftie, I'll pass. If you are going to monitor my pronouns, pass. If you live anywhere other than America, pass. If you're an OF model, pass. If you're not comfortable swapping selfies, pass. If you would never use the words "curvy" or "chubby" to describe yourself, pass (give me a heavier woman any day). And most importantly... well.... nah, I'll save that one for private chatting.