Does anyone here have any actual experience in a relationship that has a significant age gap? I sometimes wonder how many people who post in this subreddit are here for genuinely romantic reasons, and how many are simply trying to fulfil a fetish. Also, it’s Wednesday, and we’re half-way through the week.

The relationship that I’m after is the one that goes the distance, the one that results in love and, when the time is right, the ‘m word’. I’ve never been into anything casual, and it would be great to find someone who has the same mindset as I do regarding relationships, and is looking for the same things that I am.

My love language is physical displays of affection, both public and otherwise, things like touching, holding, hugging, etc, so you should be into that as well. I love the excitement and warm feeling that come with being close to the one you love.

The type of person I’m after is someone who has a great sense of humour in general, with bonus points for having a similar sense of humour to my own; mine can best be described as something of a cross between Chandler Bing (RIP) and Edmund Blackadder. They’re also kind and caring, someone I feel can feel relaxed around; it’s incredibly stressful being around people where you have to walk on eggshells because you don’t know what little thing will set them off.

It’s also important that you’re willing to put in the effort when it comes to regular communication because communication is a big thing for me.

I’m an introvert, and my ideal night would involve spending time with my partner at home, perhaps doing something as simple as curling up on the sofa and introducing each other to our favourite shows or films; I’ve got many that I’d like to share with someone, and maybe you do too, and you’ve been waiting for the right person to share them with. My main solo hobbies are gaming and anime. I watch little in the way of TV and films, and almost no sports, apart from MMA and the occasional jiu-jitsu tournament. When I’m part of a couple, I’m open to almost anything my partner may want to, and I’m not against the occasional day/night out if it’s just the two of us. Overall, though, I prefer the quiet life, sometimes something as simple as sitting in the garden in the evening and enjoy the night air.

It would be great if we had similar interests, however, it’s not a prerequisite, as long as you’re respectful about what I like, just as I would be respectful about what you like.

As I’m in the UK, I would better to talk to someone who is also in the UK for reasons of convenience; not only would it make meeting up easier, and I would want to meet up if things progress well, it would also make communication a lot easier as we’d be in the same time zone.

However, I am open to talking to people who are overseas, as long as you’re moving to the UK in the near future, and that the move is, if not set in stone, then is at least guaranteed to happen. Be aware, though, that I am unable to travel overseas.

I’m a vegetarian, though I don’t mind being around meat eaters as long as they’re respectful of how I feel. I don’t drink and, while I’m okay being with someone who does, it won’t work if you’re a person who drinks frequently. I’m non-religious and non-spiritual, and this will never change, and my views are generally what you’d call progressive and liberal. Disparate views are one thing, but if you use terms like ‘PC/PC culture’, ‘liberal’ or ‘woke’ as pejoratives, we will not get along. In addition, I do not smoke and will not be with a smoker.

I’m okay with either private messaging or Reddit chat, though I’d like to move off Reddit once we both feel comfortable doing so. Once we’ve moved to a different platform, exchanging pictures is then also something that would be done once we’re both comfortable, as would voice and video chat, especially because the best way to really get to know someone is through real-time communication.

Your opening message doesn’t have to be that long, just give me something to work with, something that can spark conversation.

If you have any questions, queries, posers, then feel free to ask.

If you want an idea of something to talk about, here is my friends post.