Hiya!

i am a 23 year old female grad student on break from school. i have been searching on and off for someone for the past two years and have struggled A LOT.

i just finished my third semester of grad school in DC and sent off PhD applications in December. One school in NY, one in CT, and one in DC. results come back in February or March. that is not to brag but to give some semblance of whats going on in my brain at the moment. i have had some new connections over break but unsure about completely dedicating my time, i have one week of break before classes resume. i am looking for a man who wants to talk to me and wants to establish a real relationship. im not looking for hookups or short term things, I am looking for something that lasts as i am an anxious gal who hates continuing to look for someone. i digress.

i am a blck girl with shoulder length locs and on the short and stubby/full figured side. i am getting back to working out and kinda stopped with this semester. i completed my capstone paper on top of two classes this semester so everything went haywire haha. i play flute and have two different personalities. One at home and one in public. i would like to show my home personality to someone. i love a lot of things and have realized in previous relationships i have not been as vulnerable as i would have liked and aspire to do that with the right person. i desire for them to know everything about me. to know my favourite cookie, Starbucks order, what makes me happy, what makes me smile, what makes me melt, etc.

who am i? * full time student and worried girly * i am wholly dedicated to my school work and doing well * guarded * i will admit that it takes a bit to warm up to people and if you capture my attention fully, youll know it :) * i am working on being more vulnerable with people as i have emotionally immature parents and upbringing * kinky but careful * i do have some kinks that i would want to explore with someone special but sex is not my foremost interest, AT ALL. i have worked really hard to get where i am and not looking to mess anything up nor do i want someone only interested in having relations all the time with no substance.

what am I looking for?

• a dominant kind of man
  • emotionally mature
  • commands attention
  • forward with feelings and emotions
  • sexually assertive and forward
    • i don't like or want to take charge in the bedroom, an immediate turn off
  • non manipulative
• older gentleman
  • confident in feelings and expressing emotions
  • impart some wisdom on me
  • supportive of my goals and me as a person
  • has own career but never too busy to talk on the phone after work
  • sends nice messages every now and again
  • likes being emotionally vulnerable on occassion

i do not respond to mere hellos in all honesty, there's a lot and sometimes I get people who waste my time unfortunately.

Intro stuffs: age, two random questions you have for me, whats your favourite morning breakfast, what is the one drink that you will go out of your way to get, and what is your favourite colour?