I'm 22F and my partner is 64M, we've been together for three years, going on our four. I've been struggling with my clinginess towards him (he lives out of state then come back for a few weeks and goes back out of state), I don't know whether my neediness stems from inserucity or it's something that needs to be talked out. I understand that he has things that he need to do, but it also rubs me the wrong way when he doesn't give me updates (I know it's stupid, but I just really care about him and I give updates when I know I'm not going to be available). Any thoughts, comments, advice?

Update: We had a genuine chat and it helped. He'll put more of an effort to talk to me cause it means a lot to me. I appreciate the advice! (and I forgot to mention I've been to his place outta state on multiple occasions and we were in the same state for a year)