I (26/F) have been seeing my boyfriend (41/M) for two months, and it's been wonderful. We've had our ups and downs, but overall, he's been extremely supportive and loving. We have a lot of fun together playing board games and going to concerts, and he's always helping me as I'm navigating life decisions, and I've been there for him at his worst. Overall, I think this is a happy and healthy relationship.

However--it's not very deep. He's a professor, so he's intelligent, but he says he reserves his intellectual energy for work and just wants to relax outside of work. I'm the type who likes to have long intellectual talks and debates about ideas. He's also very practical, always trying to apply any idea to a given situation--if the topic of discussion is not do-able or tangible, it just confuses him (say, if we were talking about ethics, he'd ask why I'm thinking about it, is there an ethical conundrum I'm dealing with? For me, I just like debating and contemplating these things.)

The lack of depth is bothering me. I feel like it's correlated to a lack of depth in my feelings for him. I really like him and think he's wonderful, but I'm not super attached to him. He's like a good friend I'm attracted to, but not a lover.

My only idea is that if we talked about deep things, our connection might deepen. But I'm having a hard time. I've asked him about having deeper conversations, but he says it's hard for him. Does anyone have any advice about how to deepen our relationship? Things we could do together, talk about that he wouldn't object to?

Thanks!