Hi, I hope some of you have experiences that could help me.

I brought a girl (19F) home from a night out (I'm 31M), and we ended up having sex. Since then, I've grown increasingly fond of her.

Over text, she's very peculiar—cold, brief, and rarely asks questions. She recently told me she has social anxiety, which I don’t know much about, but she uses alcohol to feel more social.

We’ve seen each other privately twice—once she brought a friend along, and the other time she came to my place alone. We agreed to meet again, and in person, she’s warm and lovely. But in between, her texts remain short and distant. I went to a private party at her place last Friday, and she was very flirty, kissing me throughout the night and suggesting we meet on Sunday. She also asked if I could help her put up some lamps. The night was great; she kissed me all evening and said how much she looked forward to Sunday.

On saturday morning, she wasn’t feeling well, so I walked her home. She texted me affectionately afterward, even with hearts, but a few hours later, she was back to being cold and distant over text. I’ve been overthinking everything but trying not to let it bother me too much, though she does confuse me. We ended up postponing Sunday’s plans because she got an ear infection.

Last night, she sent me a blank Snap, so I asked her about her day and about Thursday, to which she replied “maybe Thursday,” as she needed to check her training schedule. Today, I went over with a friend (who her friend likes) to help her put up lamps. It was a bit awkward—no touching or anything, and it felt off. We haven’t texted since yesterday because I’ve been trying to give her space and let her message me first.

I’m confused about whether the usual “rules” apply here—like waiting to text, staying mysterious, and giving her space. I feel like everything I thought I knew might not apply, and I don’t know what she wants or if this is just how she is sober. Should I message her tomorrow about Thursday, or should I wait to see if she contacts me first?

I really hope someone can share advice or experiences with similar situations.

Thank you in advance!