I (20F) made a post last night about older men and finances, and got a pretty agreed upon reception that I find an age gap transactional/am a sugar baby

In the post I mention that I dont have a financial standard for guys my age, but only for older men. Initially I justified that by saying that I have expectations for someone of that age to be financially well off, but I think the reality is a little different: I don’t find older men attractive, so I feel as though I need incentive to consider dating one.

When I dig further into the ‘why’, I think it’s because from the older men I’ve talked to that wanted to pursue me in a romantic light, I’ve noticed the ones that tend to date much younger (20 year gap) tend to be not as mature, and I can tell they regret/were unable to sleep with someone when they were younger and are trying to make up the time now, which I find weird. It feels immature. That or they were unable to grow up, and want to feel young again through me.

For people who get sensitive when they feel desired for their money, is certainly feels like they make it very obvious that they desire me for my youth/looks.

I also feel like I have trouble connecting with them emotionally as well; if I talk to a guy my age I just feel like there is a much wider breadth of topics we can cover due to both sharing the same socially context and being raised in the same time period, which feels a lot more natural and easier to connect.

I’ve also just had bad experiences with older men in the general public. When I’m approached/hit on in public while working or commuting from school, most times it’ll be an older man, and it starts to form a stereotype in your head that they’re weird and creepy. Staring at me won’t make me like you, I promise.

Anyway, I thought this would be too large of an edit on the original post, so I made it its own. I’m sure the reception to this one won’t be fantastic as it’s mainly criticisms, but I just wanted to give a different perspective from the typical posts on the reddit.