Hey there! This isn't particularly an age gap post, but I still thinks it fits in quite well here due to maturity levels and all that.

My fiance works, I work sparsely (with favor, door dash, Uber etc), I bring in SSI to supplement, and do all of the housework besides cooking. I'm getting burnt out. Any time I ask him to do anything outside of working and comig home to play video games, it turns to a fight because I'm expecting more out of him and that's unfair.

I was raised to be the family "maid" and that's all my tasks have been all my life. I'm disabled by a slew of mental health problems and while I do work, it's not to the extent he does. I take out the dogs, I feed the dogs, I do his laundry, I clean up his area (that I've begged him to take care of because I can't stand mess), I vaccum, sweep, mop, you name it. I always felt like growing old with someone, we'd split the household chores equally because we both live here, we both make messes, and we both should want a happy and healthy home. He grew up where Mom took care of all the "girl" chores and he didn't really have to do much.

I feel like this man's mother. I feel like I'm nagging and begging and pleading. But he says it's unfair that I ask chores of him. He seems open to the idea of cleaning his area, but then never does.

I wanna marry this man, literally everything else is great. We clash on this and money at times. I need solutions. How can I explain to him what I need and why he should do it?

Idk if I've explained this well enough or if there are questions. Please ask. I'm open.