I've been to a kink club but it's mostly people 40 and up and it's awkward being the only young person. Even though I'm attracted to older people.

I want a place where there's a mix of older and younger, so I can still have fun even if i don't meet an older person that day.

i've really only ever dated online, so i'm nervous to try in real life. i know people said to join hobbies, but i'm still figuring out my schedule for college and getting a new job, so a hobby commitment isn't a priority at the moment right now (but will in the future).

there's one teacher at my school that is cute, but i learned not to shit-where-i-eat, but the class is ending in a couple weeks, so maybe i could go for it? but i think it's just a tiny crush. not actually into him. whatever ignore this paragraph 😩

i'm not sure if older guys are into the same stuff i'm into. i'm very hippie and gender fluid sometimes, although i tend to lean feminine when i'm with an older guy. and i can be very silly and spontaneous, kind of childish.

but people said also to approach a guy first, instead of waiting for them to come to me. but sometimes i struggle coming to them first because i'm not sure what to say. do i just treat them how i would treat a guy my age? ask for their number/instagram, and if we could go out sometime?

and i worry since older guys can maybe be more conservative, and i'm very not that. and im not sure how to make sure our values match. or how do i find more open minded guys?

someone explain to me like im 5 but very much an adult 😔