The age gaps I’m talking about are not that huge — around 10 years or fewer — but I couldn’t post on r/askwomenover30 or r/datingover30, so here I am. I’m not asking “Is this OK?” so much as I’m asking “Is this approach likely to get me what I want?”

I’m 36, have been divorced for like five years and single for almost two years. Dating has been kind of rough because every man I encounter is “not looking for anything serious” or “trying to keep it casual.” This was NOT what I expected to encounter in my mid-late 30s with men who are like 33-45ish, but it’s apparently common.

I’m hoping to eventually remarry and haven’t fully given up on the idea of having kids. And lately I’ve been seeing a marked increase in attention from younger men, usually 25-30. But I’ve never dated anyone significantly younger than me and have some reservations.

Anyway, would love to hear everyone’s experiences or advice as I attempt to recalibrate my age range on the apps.