I’ve lurked here for a long time as I was interested to see other people’s perspectives on a situation that I live with personally.

I’m M41 and my girlfriend is F26 and we’ve been together over a year but known each other for 5 years. We share an amazing bond. I have a lot of relationship experience and even a past marriage behind me. But I never met a partner who thinks and acts the same as me. We literally finish each other’s sentences. When one of us suggests something to do - the other was almost always just about to suggest the same thing. We’re on the same page about every topic and issue. Even when we’re not - we can talk it through and agree.

We listen to each other, respect each other, communicate brutally honestly, and the sex is off the charts…!

After all these years of failed relationships I gave up, and really just accepted I’d end up alone in life, but all those breakups along the way were worth it just to finally find this girl.

And it honestly blows my mind. Because we’re 15 years apart in age, come from different countries, have immensely different upbringings and (in the beginning) barely even spoke the same language. I just don’t understand how she can be so mature at that age. Well, I also don’t understand how I can be so immature at my age… :D

And to top it all off - she’s drop dead gorgeous. By all standards she’s a 9.5/10. I’m not ugly of course, but I’m heaps older so it’s a bit hard to maintain good looks at some point. I our age gap with us is kind of visible because people sometimes make remarks. Like shopkeepers often make remarks to us when we buy alcohol and cigarettes like “Are you the one paying for this sir?” And “Giving this girl alcohol is on your conscience” and weird stuff like that. But we just don’t give a shit about what people think. The relationship is perfect.

Now for the downsides - firstly she earns a lot less than me so our “family budget” kind of restricts me from doing some of the stuff I want to do, and used to do when I was single. But her presence does fill in those gaps. And she has potential to grow her career.

And the other downside is that I sometimes wonder what’s gonna happen when I’m like 50 and she’s 35 . Will I look like a grandpa? Will I still be able to go crazy in bed? That plays on my mind sometimes. But I’m determined to stay as healthy as I can and see what happens. I hope it’ll work out good.

Thanks for reading. I enjoy this sub!