For context - I'm a 55m and have recently been casually dating a 19F who is studying. I've read a lot of posts and comments along the lines of 'how can you have shared interests', 'the experience gap only goes one way' and a whole load of pseudo-psychology about daddy issues too which is just bs.

My experience though has been that you can have a lot of shared interests in a whole load of things. As an example I've taken a passing interest in fine art but never really focused on it, whereas that's what she's studying and it's been a lifelong passion for her - it's fascinating to hear her talk about that and educate me, almost three times her age, in what I don't know. And my knowledge of the local experimental theatre scene has been tripled in short time also, drawing from her and her bunch of friends.

And I've learned a huge amount about what modern society looks like through 19 year old eyes. As I see it, your own impressions and preconceptions about things get set, you put the memory in box in your mind and then later when someone is talking about the difficulties of renting, finance, job openings and so on. there's a real danger that you drag out an obsolete memory and come out with the fateful 'in my day' kind of stuff. But it's NOT your day any more, and what I've learned about the obsolescence of some of my memories has been eye-opening.

It's far, far from a one way street and I really value what I'm hearing, whilst being glad to share a lot of stuff I know that hasn't got obsolete yet. I think it's win-win both ways and wanted to inject some positivity to the scene that I don't always read in age gap forums.

Who else finds this kind of positivity in their age gap relationships?