Tonight I went through one of the most traumatic experiences of my life and I wanted to share my story without being judged soley by the age gap of my relationship.

My boyfriend and I both live together in a small city in Mexico. He moved to my hometown from China around 6 years ago for business and we met when he had been living here for 3 years already. Our relationship is usually nice and peaceful, with him focusing on his investments and me spending most of my time at my art studio. We have been living under the same ceiling for over a year and honestly everything between us had been lovely.

He, however, has to travel a lot to Mexico City for his business, or that's at least what he used to tell me. Today a friend of mine sent me some pictures of him in the most prestigious (and illegal) men's club in Mexico City. The pictures where nothing far from grotesque: girls all over his chest, all over his legs, and all over his back.

This pictures made me extremely sad because about 2 months ago I was diagnosed with a soft STD. My doctor treated it successfully, but advised me to adress the issue with my partner, as I know I haven't sleep with anyone else in years. He denied it and accused my doctor of creating fake news. He took me to a different doctor, but they kept giving each other this look that made me think he payed him to say it was not an STD.

When I tied the knots in my mind, I started crying and called him to confront him, but even then I was soft and gentle. I always adress him with love, even in our worst fights. He simply told me that visiting this places was "essential"for his business and that he would keep visiting them for a while. As foolish as I am, I ended up apologizing for "not understanding business enough and making assumptions of how they work".

Then, that same night, my nightmare started. He video called all of a sudden and showed me how he was on a different men's club. He was filming a dancing girl without her permission and screaming at the cellphone things like "I come here all the time. And there's nothing you can do". Then he threathend me of "messing up my career" (he is a powerful man locally) if I didn't watch until the end. I was frozen and couldn't stop crying. This video call continued for almost an hour. By the end of it, he said no man would hesitate to change me for a "cheap wh4r3."

I usually stay at my mom's during his trips. Turns out she heard everything from the other side of the wall, entered my room and turned off the call herself. She held me for a long while and managed to call me down.

Then, at 11PM he starts to bombard me with threaths, calls, pictures of more girls. My phone wouldn't stop beeping. My boyfriend went completely nuts after my friend caught him in the act and I honestly feel horrified and scared. I never imagined someone could do something like that.

Right now I feel lost, humiliated, scared and extremely sorry for my mom. I just need to vent to a friendly community that wouldn't judge the whole situation only by the age gap.