So I know it’s too early to say but this is my first experience with a younger M. It’s really been bothering me that he’s 22 and I feel a 12 year age gap is so much. I find myself saying things like “why isn’t he older?” Just because of societal norms and perceptions. I find myself self sabotaging as well. At first, I kept mentioning that he was too young and he would be completely understanding of it, but would point out the cliche “age is just a number”. I realized it also probably not nice to keep saying it or talking about it (even in a respectful way) because if I really felt so strongly about it, I would cut off communication.

He is emotionally intelligent, kind, respectful of boundaries, wise beyond his years, and more mature than 90% of people my age and older. I laugh so much when we talk and look forward to it all the time. I feel in my soul that he is a match for me and brings out good in me and happiness that I haven’t had in a while. He also expresses how much he likes me not just by words but with actions.

I’m starting to really like him and am trying me my best to be open to the possibilities and “enjoy the journey” (as he says).

However, I can’t help but wonder about the future (overthinker here). I am at the point that I want to get married and have children. It’s something he knows and I will definitely mention that again if/when things progress and I feel I’m fully okay with “seeing how it goes” but I can’t help but think 22 year olds just don’t want that and need to experience and live their life.

I’ve read a lot of posts here and they have been helpful in giving me hope and courage to just live my life and do what makes me happy. However, most of the posts mention women who are older than me and already had marriage and have kids.

Am I wrong for wanting to end it before I get hurt? Would a 22 year old who is finishing school this year for his profession even want all of those things within the next 2-3 years? I know anything is possible but would love to hear experiences.