Hi, I’m 21F and he’s 30M, we’ve been together 1.5 years now. I don’t particularly have “a thing” for age gap relationships, nor does he, and neither of us pictured ourselves being in one until we met. We actually said after becoming friends that we COULD NOT develop romantic feelings/become a couple because it wouldn’t be right! (Denial is a river in Egypt) I was judgmental of AGRs and worried younger women were being taken advantage of. But the heart wants what it wants, and now I have a different opinion of AGRs :)

When I get asked how old my bf is I have no shame in replying, even when he’s not around. However when I tell people (usually women my age) sometimes I get a response like “girl you’re a victim” or “ew that’s creepy” etc. The fact my bf is a high school teacher doesn’t help lol. I used to feel this way about AGRs so I don’t let it bother me. But what are your go-to quick responses to these things?

I usually say something like “You don’t need to like it, that’s why it’s MY relationship not YOUR relationship.” I don’t feel the need to be rude/defensive but I also want to communicate that I don’t need commentary on my long-term relationship from [random coworker, acquaintance, etc]. Let me know what you say 😊😊