so ive (23f) been taking a break from dating in general. my friends hate reddit as a potential dating site and then the dating apps are no better.

two weeks ago I was gearing up to delete my ads, so i could continue living in the moment. someone had dmmed me and i responded to leftovers.

he (32m) and i were chatting and had great vibe and connections. this was sunday, after all day talking on monday he came over tuesday and we had sex. thursday was a date and friday was another sleepover. somethings comes up at work on saturday night and he stops communicating. i prod just for basic updates. he promises to call to give an update on sunday and I wait all day until i call once and leave him alone. this goes on for the week.

today i asked abt dinner and seeing each other and i miss his voice. instead of calling he texts me that hes had time to think and he wants to be friends. we dont have a connection and wants to part ways without drama.

where did i go wrong? thats all i want to know. was it oo much communication?? why not say that to work on it? i wanted to talk abt that today. i made it clear i like phone calls and updates in the beginning and he opened that door. why did he text me and not call. im just so frustrated. im fully taking my break. i have a lot going on personally and apparently im not communicating clearly with men abt what i want no matter how many times i say it aloud and through text. my friends say hes the problem, but i just want to be loved by someone and be vulnerable. he saw my ad and all that i wanted.

if you cant do what was outlined then why do you respond?? men have been doing this, no matter the ages. i hate this so much. stop responding to ads if thats not what you want. its wasting my time and your time.

im gonna go lay in bed for a while and get back in the dating game in a couple months.

edit: thanks for the comments and dms to those who have been supportive and comforting. i wanna clear something up: im not as concerned about us having sex as consenting adults. could i have waited longer? sure. but advice ive gotten pertaining to sex has been either wait as long as possible or be open to it bc men dont like when your not. neither strategy has worked in my favor thus far, so im starting to assume this has nothing to do with sex and giving it up, and more to do with failure to communicate. downvote me if you want but its been bothering me.