Everyday in this subreddit the question is asked how does a younger woman meet an older male. I work as a photographer and yesterday during one of my photo shoots I had an interesting encounter which I'm using to highlight what I believe a younger woman should do.

To start with, any decent older male is not going to automatically assume a younger female is interested in anything but men her own age. It's not going to be on an older male's radar that a young girl woman could be interested. That means the younger women are going to have to take some initiative and not just sit back and wait for an older male to approach. Because the older men who do approach first are most likely sleazy in the first place, to be honest.

I was working, minding my own business, when a younger woman who works for the Parks and recs department came and asked me if I were photographing the teams who were playing today, and I responded that I was. Now, that alone doesn't mean anything except a polite person who was maybe a bit bored and just wanted someone to talk to. It became a little bit obvious that she was interested in the fact that she kept pursuing conversation long after there was really no need to continue. Anytime I had a break between teams that I was shooting she would come by and chat with me. We found all kinds of things to talk about namely the women's college basketball tournament which just completed.

While she's not someone I would have looked at twice before, quite honestly the level of "just go for it" that she showed, rather than cowering behind self-consciousness and insecurity, instantly made her much more attractive and someone I would go out with just for the fact that she had the balls to put herself out there like that.

If you are saying to yourself, "I'm just too shy to ever talk to someone on my own " then you really need to forget about dating and maybe go seek some therapy about your insecurity issues. Insecurity ruins any relationship anyway so it's really the healthiest thing to do.

New people come across your path every single day of your life. There is never a problem with meeting new people. It truly is do you have the courage to turn random encounters into opportunities? Most of them are going to fail and that's just life. Most people you run into and engage in conversation or going to be in a relationship or not looking. That's the facts and that's how it is. But learning to just engage people in conversation without focusing so much on what you perceive to be flaws about yourself will do your mental health a whole lot of good. Some of you spend way too much mental energy thinking about all your flaws and failures and it's holding you back.

Good luck out there!