I've never posted on here before but there's a theme that I've encountered time and time again when dating men who are in their late twenties to late thirties especially that I struggle to deal with. I'm an 18 year old woman and a college student, which puts me in a place where I'm exploring independency for the first time, but in a lot of relationships I've had with older men things tend to fall apart once they express future ambitions like moving out of state/the country, having children, etc.

In almost every instance, I've had to slowly end things once I realized that we were in two different positions in life. I'm not interested in having kids or being married any time soon, and I'm pretty content where I live currently. I feel like my current lifestyle and future plans never align with whoever I'm dating and it's making me feel hesitant to continue pursuing older men knowing it might just end the same way every time. In the past I've even had men express wanting to have children merely months after knowing me and it's just not a realistic thing for me at my age.

Any advice?

edit: spelling