My now ex (51M) whom I still talk to on a daily basis (now it’s mostly about work and how the day has been). We still very much like each other and are not seeing anybody. He has two daughters, 19 and 22, while I'm 23. He got divorced about 12 years ago but has always lived in the same house they used (which now belongs to the ex-wife, if I'm not wrong) because as parents, they didn’t want their children to have to decide who to spend their time with. His older daughter is in college in the States, and the younger is about to leave this year. He now wants to move out of the house as there’s no reason for him to be there since the children have moved out. His mother also spends 6 months a year in that same house. The reasons why him living there made sense all these years was so the children could get equal time with the parents, and he is frequently traveling so isn’t home all weeks. Now that both children will be in college, he finally wants to get a place (a serviced apartment of sorts) in the same city (also because his travel has reduced). However, the mother will continue to live with the ex, and when his adult children visit, he’ll be staying in his ex’s house AGAIN. A few days ago, when he told me he now has to look at places to live, I told him it doesn’t make sense as he’ll still be going back to his ex’s house so might as well continue to live there. But he got super defensive and told me I had no right to give my opinion, and today he told me that I was out of place to say that.

My question to you is, is this a normal situation? He also still needs to have ‘the talk’ with the girls about his divorce as they mostly only know their mother’s side and don’t know that he cheated on her during his marriage. They are both grown adults. Are these all excuses to not fully commit to me?

Edit: He was always divorced. The end about commitment was because that’s one reason why I broke up with him. If his family situation resolved I would get back with him, but looks like it never will.