The whole appeal of an AGR for an older dominant-man looking for a younger woman, is her submissiveness, her innocence, the protective instinct that she brings out in him, her obedience, her willingness to please......and - inexperience (either sexual or romantic).

While these traits are an absolute premium when found in the right partner, the same traits can be a downside with the wrong one. For example, inexperience means - they have never had to care for another person romantically, they don't know how to yet. They are aware of only their own needs and feelings, lacking the ability to dissociate from their own and relate to their partner's.

These traits are either absolutely natural or are put on to look more attractive/ appealing/ visible. Inexperience is sweet, if the partner is willing to submit and surrender and learn from her man. Inexperience also means - everything is a fantasy, make believe, still just in the head. When in practice, it can expose and strip the put on personality. The supposed submissiveness, turns conditional submissiveness. Turns to insensitivity, arrogance and defensiveness.

The experienced dominant-man knows when to desist, when to relent. But the inexperienced submissive-woman knows not what to do, because either she is not cut out for it (is not natural to her) or she feels a resistance to learn, either in general or with a particular (wrong) partner.

In any case, there is really nothing a caring dominant-man can do, when the pseudo submissive behaviour turns out a direct anxiety trigger.