i (22F) was here a month ago gushing about a man (33M) that i cared about. i was being supportive of him and what hes going through. being there for him when he needed someone to be emotional and vulnerable with. im being vulnerable with him and opening myself up and feel like for the first time im being received and start to feel comfortable and happy with someone.

but it happened again. i asked him during a routine convo to be honest with me about his feelings snd he tells me he has no romantic attraction. none. after two months he has had no romantic attraction, in fact we met two weeks into talking in a friendly manner and he knew then that he had no romantic attraction.

he told me he was waiting for it to hit but it never did. he did not want to hurt me and was waiting for the "right time". im speechless. i feel stupid that i missed all the signs that he wasnt interested but i feel like i was getting mixed signals.

There was sexual interest and countless times he expressed his interest in me and said I was everything he wanted in a partner.

hes been avoiding the important discussion and having open communication regarding why he waited so long to tell me . he said i communicated my feelings but never asked about his, which i will work on in the future. today i cried while talking to him on the phone at work and have been feeling numb and hurt since i got home.

not giving up on older men, but i deserve better than feeling used for emotional support