Howdy!

This may sound a bit silly, but it’s causing me a lot of anxiety and I need to hear the opinions of users on the most brutal and ruthless part of the internet to help me think clearer.

So my partner (32m) and I (24f) have been dating for about 7 or so months now, things are starting to get serious, the L word is a thing, we talk all day, and we really enjoy spending time together. In like every way this guy is kind of everything I could ever dream of, kind of dream come true stuff. He’s funny, sweet, physically my type, educated, and very emotionally intelligent and intuitive. I mean there’s not a single thing I would change about him if someone gave me a magic wand; if given the opportunity to create my dream guy magically, it would be him.

The problem is that while he’s all of those great things; educated, financially successful, and attractive (to me). I haven’t gone to grad or professional school yet and have a kid on top of being recently divorced. (Yeah, I know right?). I feel awful being with him because I know he deserves so much more, he deserves to be with some stunning, child free doctor with no baggage. Instead, he’s with me.

I know and can feel that I’m self-sabotaging in this relationship. I know I’m not giving him the chance to treat me like he wants to be with me, but I can’t stop because this issue just keeps persisting in my head. It’s the healthiest most blissful relationship I’ve ever been in, yet I can’t shake the feeling that I shouldn’t be with him.

Granted, I do have the plans to further my education and all that, it’ll just take 4 years until I finish. He’s so out of my league right now but also the sweetest guy ever and I just want him to be with someone as awesome as he is. I think he thinks other girls don’t like him because of some physical traits some people don’t find attractive (but I find wildly attractive), but he’s amazing and I think he’s selling himself short there.

I don’t even know what advice I want but please unleash