Hey there ladies,

I’m a 42-year-old black guy, well educated with a great career in healthcare. I pride myself on being a mix of lighthearted, yet commanding - kind of like a good cup of black coffee: strong but mmm.. so good.

I’m in a dead-vanilla-housemate type marriage and looking to connect with someone in a similar situation. Life’s too short for judgment, and I believe empathy and understanding goes a long way. I’m into photography, music, travel, cooking, and I can easily get lost in a good book, movie, or audiobook.

While I prioritize my physical and emotional wellbeing (yes, I’m working on getting back in shape), I’ll be upfront: I’m 5’8 & a half 😂.. a bigger guy, but I’m comfortable with who I am and where I’m at. No rush, just progress.

Here’s a personal note on if you should consider responding:

I’ve been down the “AP” road before and, honestly, I got emotionally invested. So, if you’re not looking for something real, please do us both a favor and skip this post.

After a much-needed break, I’m back and ready for something real. I know women commonly say ‘if you’re just here for sex, keep moving,’… I agree. I’m genuinely looking for a true friend. This will take time – I want to connect and really get to know YOU.

I’m quirky. I overthink, and analyze. For that reason, I’m big on communication and clarity. It just makes things easier - so we don’t have t try and mind read. We’re grown up’s. I’m also a big supporter of and emotional wellness—if you’re someone who knows where they’re at and is ready to connect, let’s chat. If you’re in a “working through some things” stage, I am an understanding guy, but know if you’re ready to be in this space. We’ve all got our journey.

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Consider responding if you’re:

-Ages: /- 10yrs -into bdsm dynamics

If you’re looking for something real and grounded with a side of humor, I’d love to hear from you!