I posted on here a few weeks back about a work crush I’ve had. I talked about an instance where we just looked at each other, smiling and neither of us wanting to break the stare.

Since that time, I haven’t really seen her much since I work from home. We did talk on the phone a couple of times. She seems to always call me with questions or to talk through work things. We’re definitely work friends but I still wonder if she’s as attracted to me as I am to her. I’m older than her and oftentimes tell myself it’s wishful thinking. But tonight, I was getting a vibe from her again.

It was our department Christmas dinner, and I sat diagonally across from her. Like before, I felt her staring at me, and I caught her doing this a couple times. Once or twice, I met her stare, smiled and looked away. But from that point on, I got brave and held the stare with her. It was nice but not to the same level as our previous moments together.

The group wanted a picture by the Christmas tree outside. We ended up walking together and chatting, definitely some mild flirting on my part. We were pretty close to each other, almost touching. When we got to the tree, we set things down and waited for some of the group to get there. Someone in our group did something funny and we turned to each other and laughed. I forget what we said to each other but I put my hand on her shoulder, giving I just a slight little squeeze.

As we gathered for the picture, she was already in the back row. I’m hoping it’s because she knew I’d be there because I’m the tallest person in the group. Of course, I got right next to her, very close. It seems like she put her arm around me before I even got mine around her waist. I held her tight.

I made a couple comments as we started pictures and found myself drifting closer and closer to her, our faces probably as close together as ever before. I aware I felt like leaning in instinctively and kissing her. Of course I didn’t, but it’s the closest I’ve ever felt to her. After pictures, I didn’t let her go right away, and she didn’t try to move. We continued to chat until we each walked separately to our cars. She called back to me to say good night, and the little tone change in her voice gave me goosebumps. I would have walked her to her car, but others from are group were there and I didn’t want to overplay my hand.

What do you think? Does she like me in return or is she just really being nice? I know work relationships can be tricky, especially since we’re both attached. But should I push for more or just enjoy flirting with her? I want to push but am scared of what may happen or not happen.

Thanks for letting me share my story and situation and frustration. Have a great night, everyone!