I mean, this should go without say but I'm baffled by the number of folks who are supposed to be on the down low about their activities yet you quickly figure out who they are because they use the same photos on their lifestyle profiles as they use on Facebook.

That's asking for trouble. Don't do it. You're asking to be found out.

In general, I hate sites because it's too much visibility and too many ways things can go sideways, but these days you have to use sites to meet people and suss them out. Don't ever use any photo from your real life on any of your extracurricular activity sites. I figured my real estate broker was in the lifestyle and he wasn't even using a picture of his face, just one of his feet. But that's enough when the exact same photo is in your Facebook gallery.

Take all new pictures no one has seen before to use on extracurricular activity sites. Wear clothes you hardly ever wear and no one will immediately associate you with. Don't put your face and your naked body in the same photo. one face shot, one nude body shot that's headless. That's plausible deniability: "that's just some random dudes cock...".

Be smart people. The kindest thing you can ever do for your spouse is to not get caught.