Hi. I’ve been married for nearly 10 years and I have had a dead bedroom for longer than I care to admit.  For me, feeling an intellectual and emotional connection is paramount for an affair.  I want us to have the kind of desire that comes from getting to know each other deeply and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable.  Let’s intrigue, surprise, and inspire each other.  I’ve learned to savor the long, slow build-up.  And once we have developed a strong and deep connection, I want us to enjoy not only prosaic, day-to-day conversation but also graphic sexting and in-person rendezvous. 

I get along best with women who are kind, ultra-smart, and accomplished.  (No Trump supporters, please.) I’m hoping to find someone who, like me, has experience in the affairs space, though if you’ve never done this before and you somehow find yourself so taken with my ad that you just have to reply, that’s ok too.  

I try not to get hung up on the physical, but I know it matters (though I’ve often gone for the not-traditionally attractive types, and personality definitely increases attraction).  As for me, I’m handsome, and everyone says I look much younger than I am.  I’m 5’10” and of average build.  I eat well and I exercise; staying healthy is important to me.  I take care in the way I dress.

Maybe you're too smart for your own good, and you have a sharp sense of humor and interesting things to talk about. I love people that are direct, earnest and kind. (I cannot emphasize my love of directness and earnestness enough.) 

I don’t do small talk, and I hate word salad and talking in circles. I like to dive right into the deep end and find out what makes you tick.  I love hot nerdy types and people who can surprise me. I’m introverted, but I can nevertheless be very chatty and I am incapable of giving terse or one-word answers. (I’m chatty in person and in text. I lose interest when I write thoughtful responses and only receive a few words in response.) I tend to connect quickly or not at all.

If this resonates with you, please reach out.