Hi all—this is a bit vulnerable, but here goes:

I recently fled (from out of state) an abusive marriage (with my young kids) and am about to go back for the custody/divorce trial. Life has been a whirlwind, and I’m dealing with a lot of fear, stress, and anxiety. What I really need right now is a genuine friend and some distraction. I’m not ready to dive into anything super-serious, but I’d love to connect and explore a friend-with-benefits situation (emphasis on friend). I’m open to it growing into more down the line.

ABOUT ME

• Stats: 6’4”, ~280 lbs, white guy, and I work out so I carry my weight fairly well.
• Lifestyle: College-educated, earn six figures, currently working remote.
• Personality: Usually optimistic and able to find humor even when life sucks. My love languages are physical touch followed by quality time.
• Living Situation: it’s embarrassing but I’m staying at my parents’ place (though I own a 3k sqft house out of state), so I can’t host and am mostly available evenings. I’m based in Bellevue but can travel a reasonable distance (anywhere in Seattle, Renton, Bothell, Issaquah, Sammamish, etc.).
• Other: I’m disease-free (happy to prove it) and prefer to stay that way. It’s been a while since I’ve been intimate with anyone other than my ex, so I’m a bit low on confidence and would appreciate someone willing to help me get that back. I enjoy vanilla, but I’m also interested in exploring more adventurous/kinky dynamics with someone I trust—possibly you?

ABOUT YOU

I’m open-minded about age, background, income, etc. The main thing is that you’re nice, willing to treat me with respect, and hopefully in decent shape (I’m partial to skinny/fit/average/mostly HWP builds). I’d love if you’re also up for trying new things or exploring kinks in a safe, consensual way. Maybe you’ve been through something difficult too, and we can bond over shared experiences.

THINGS I ENJOY

• Deep conversations about your hopes, dreams, and random life musings.
• Watching movies/shows together and discussing (or just enjoying the silence).
• Grabbing a drink—coffee, tea, or something stronger.
• Cuddling and physical affection (my top love language).
• Cooking (or attempting to) as a fun two-person adventure.
• Vanilla intimacy but also exploring wilder sides—free use, public fun, consensual non-consent roleplay, and discovering my dominant streak, etc.
• A huge range of interests: talking current events, board/video games, puzzles, podcasts, astronomy, learning about science, cycling, traveling, motorcycles, snowboarding, hiking, camping, ICE CREAM (yes, in all caps), reading, and programming.

IF ANY OF THIS RESONATES…

Talk to me! If you’re shy, ask me about the time I cycled around Western Europe or from Seattle to Michigan. Please start with your A/S/L. We can swap photos and see if we vibe. I truly never thought I’d be in this situation, but here I am, reaching out into the abyss, wondering who will reach back.

Thanks for reading, and good luck with your own search!