Hi there…

I would best describe myself as the cutie hockey dad next door. I am Someone who is incredibly devoted to his kids who really are the center of my world, so someone with kids would make much more sense for me regardless if they are home or already out of the house.

I would say that in ways I do have that white picket fence life which I am incredibly grateful for, but of course if that were fully the case I wouldn’t be here looking. I think my tagline says it all … As the kids are getting older and some having already moved on to college etc… as the “nest is emptying “ it has just sort of really hit me with the question of “how did I get here”. I think I am the last person anyone would think would be thinking about this let alone be here. I am not the proverbial cake eater. There are reasons I am here but I am also really good at compensating and fixing things to maintain the status quo. So even with a lot of wonderful things there is this sense of loneliness (not sure if that makes any sense ). I think a lot of it has to do with having an accomplished life , always so busy with work life and the kids and somewhere along the way there developed this routine and feeling of being rote. A responsibility robot is a way I have thought about it..

I think part of it is as the kids are moving on in life and with less focus on them day to day it just hits you that somehow there’s this void in your life you have been suppressing for too long.

I am married, 51 and live here in the Boston area. I am an Educated (overeducated lol) professional who does have a good head on his shoulders , who loves to engage in any sort of conversation and has the ability to span the breadth of all sorts of topics and appreciates someone who is the same. Emotional intelligence is such an amazing quality and it’s something I cherish and feel I can reciprocate.

I would love to find someone who believes this process should happen organically and that the process of getting to know someone new not form your word or life so to speak, alone has such great appeal. Developing a great rapport, click and connection I believe is important in laying the foundation of whatever it is that might develop.

A woman with a dry wit, some sarcasm and snarkiness mixed in with a little self deprecation has such great appeal to me. Someone who is caring and empathic as well speaks to me on so many levels. Verbal sparring is always fun and I appreciate a woman who isn’t afraid to share her thoughts and feelings with intelligence and thoughtfulness. A woman who just “gets it “ has such great appeal to me.

I have all sorts of varied interests and happy to share that with someone and as well learn about things that maybe are not in my repertoire and learn it through the prism of someone who does have that interest.

In broad strokes though I would love to find someone and something - simple yet substantive that is filled with mutual respect. Someone who wants to create a little oasis and a place to call our own and that can happen in so many different ways and times. Realizing we have have life , family, work etc and that there are Ebbs and flows but at the same time there exists a strong latent awareness of one another. I am Not here to spouse bash or to have you be my therapist but surely always available to listen and be a shoulder to lean on.

I am 5”10 good solid build from years of hockey which I still coach and play. Salt and pepper hair (the salt is winning out these days ) I play tennis as well and try to work out a few times a week. I would best describe my personality as easy going , easy to talk to and complex yet not complicated. In the sense I have a lot of unique layers to who and what I am but yet very easily peeled away.

I’ll stop here for now and looking forward to hearing from “you”.