I'm intending for this NOT to be like every other meticulously curated tableau of one's greatest hits. I'm a real person. The idea of putting off a manufactured sexy mysterious bravado internet vibe kind of turns my stomach.

I'm married and a dad. Generally introverted in groups, but love deep discussions with one or two people, even if it's about shallow topics. The passion a person feels about something is contagious to me. I'd describe myself as curious, and maybe awwshucksy charming.

The terms educated and professional tend to find their way into these things, and while neither would land near the top of attributes with which I'd think to describe myself, they do both apply.

I'm 6'1, a broad-shouldered 235 - a few pounds to lose, it's a process - I'm a gym regular. Dark hair, false-hazel eyes, salt splitting rent with the pepper in my trimmed beard, attractively conventional. 😄

I'd probably best connect with somebody within, say, 5-to-8-ish years of my age, but as long as a gal doesn't sound like a tiktok reel on one end or Aunt Pearl on the other, 😉 I'm more interested in who a person is than what her birth year was. I've also read on here that NOT listing physical attributes I'm looking for equates to desperation. That admittedly confuses me. How unimaginitive would I have to be to subscribe to only one small subset of attractiveness?

I am looking for an emotional connection, and once that's established, I'm also looking for an eventual in-person relationship. I specify that because I was only recently clued in that a problem ladies are having on here is an apparent epidemic of cowardly guys who talk a good game but never plan on leaving fantasyland. Until I found that out, I was a lot more reticent about how to say I'm looking for an eventual in-person AP, for fear of coming across the wrong way. I have no interest in just a nsa / fuck-buddy situation (honestly, eww), but I want the emotional connection of a real affair.

I've done this before, and discretion is very important. I'm looking for a real connection with someone. If you are too, let's chat a bit.