About Me - I’m in my mid-40s, 5'10", 175 lbs, fit, with a full head of salt-and-pepper hair. I’m well-traveled, well-read, well-groomed, rock successful career.

I have met few people here and their first reaction after trading pics is handsome, don't look my age. And the pic was taken last week. I’m in good shape, both mentally and physically. I believe that’s part of showing respect to my partner. I’ve worked hard to stay healthy and attractive, and I am proud of it.

I’m real – I’m not here to waste anyone’s time or play games. I’m genuinely looking for someone who wants to connect on a deeper level.

I am over guilt – I’ve been in this place before, and I know exactly why I’m here. I know I am cheater and lier here and I’ve made peace with my choices. Happy to discuss in detail.

Looking for emotional first – I’m not looking for a quick fling. I believe that real intimacy comes after forming a solid bond of trust and friendship. The emotional connection always makes the physical connection more rewarding, and that’s what I’m after.

I will be there for you/us – I understand how hard it can be when you’re not getting the attention you (and I) deserve. I’m not flaky, and I’ll be present, showing up when you need someone to talk to, share with, or just be around. And if I cant, I will let you know (see my recent post on /r/adultery).

I’ve learned how to balance the different aspects of my life. There’s space for everything—my family, my work, and my AP.

Love grows when it’s shared – I don’t believe love or affection is a limited resource. The more you give, the more it grows. I’m looking for someone who understands that and is ready to share in something meaningful.

Ask me anything

PS: This is a repost. I have been looking for a while and waiting for the right one. I know she is out there.