We're here to send it over the Green Monster, right? That takes patience at the plate, a competitive spirit, and practice.

Although I've been fortunate enough to have enjoyed two affairs in the last four years (thanks to this sub) they were both with first-timers (practice & experience!). It was exciting to explore with them and they were wonderful, fulfilling experiences, but with experience comes wisdom (supposedly). So, I'm approaching this search differently than my first two times around.

I'm holding out for someone that's been through this herself at least once and has cautionary tales of her own to share. (Patience at the plate!)

It might take longer to find a match, but at this stage, I'm willing to wait for the right person. If you swing at every pitch you'll eventually get some hits, but not before striking out quite often, and we're here for a homerun.

My perfect pitch is someone between 40-55, with kids, and married. The ideal ballpark would be outside of Boston, somewhere north of the Pike to southern NH.

I'm a sucker for a pretty face and freckles always catch my eye. You're in shape enough to steal second base but fun enough to enjoy a Fenway Frank. You don't have a gym-perfect body but you have the stamina to handle our extra curricular activities with ease. Chemistry and physical attraction are obviously vital, but I consider confidence is the most important factor when it comes to being sexy.

You're ok with exchanging pics relatively early on to check on our potential (on TG, of course). You know what you want and you're not afraid to ask for it.

Drinks: yes, Smoking: no. If you like to cook, we'll have something in common.

If you're a professional / office-type, it would probably help us relate to each other better.

You're a thinker looking for an intelligent, interesting AP. You like to read, keep up on current events, and you're not afraid to try new things. You like to dive deep into conversations to really get to know each other, but can appreciate just chatting about the latest odd-ball Netflix series we both watched or a new sexy song you added to our shared playlist.

Your situation at home is good, but you're here for obvious reasons. The ol' "neither one of us is looking to change our current situations" applies here. I like to think that good APs can even help each other's relationships at home by being supportive. You're aware of the possibility / likelihood of developing feelings, but know how to keep them in check.

Sound like you so far? We're halfway there - hopefully I sound like the one you're holding out for too:

49, 5'9", live & work north and west of Boston. Average build and lead the way on the mountain bike and hiking trails. I have a neatly trimmed (short) beard that shows some gray. Hazel eyes, decent tush, and a handsome face. Nice hair (but I'll admit that I cringe when I catch a glimpse from above in the grocery store check-out camera). 2 teens in HS, 1 good-boy dog, first marriage. In a dead bedroom with mismatched libidios. Good home life, with no complaints other than lack of passion.

Dry sense of humor, conscientious and caring, good conversationalist but not demanding or clingy. Check-ins are usually 1-3 times a day, but I know sometimes we all need a short break for family life. Mostly type-A personality but wouldn't say gregarious.

I want to support your relationship at home despite our potential plans / activities. I am not into bashing spouses. (If he pulls an asshole move though, you've got a shoulder to turn to and someone to listen). I can laugh at myself and my little quirks, and want to learn yours too.

I'm a curious person that likes to learn. I enjoy cars, cooking, reading, gardening, camping/hiking, art, have broad music tastes, love comedy, drinks, baseball, hockey, and a bunch of other stuff.

Looking for wild, passionate sex (who isn't, right?) but do you approach it with an almost competitive spirit? I want one of us to say, "Remember last time when we did such and such? I have an idea to make it even hotter!" or finding sexual challenges that keep things interesting for both of us and encourage us to try something new.

Curiosity and exploration are expected and kinks are welcome. You feeling comfortable enough to ask to try that "one thing" you've been thinking about ... that's my thing. I guess I'm a pleaser.

Strong opsec should go without saying of course. My car doesn't track me, I escaped the kid-tracker app trap, I have hobbies and work patterns that support weekday rendezvous. Weekends are almost always out due to kids sport schedules but there are rare exceptions here & there. Overnights have been done, but are also rare.

If you're patient enough to read all of that, you're ready for the big leagues. Sound like a game you want to play? Maybe you're the perfect pitch. If you're holding out for a homerun too, say hello.