Hey there,

I’ll keep it real with you—I’m not here to play games. I expect honesty, clarity, and respect, and I promise to give the same in return. If you’re tired of the same old “just looking for fun” posts and want something deeper, we might just be on the same page.

A Little About Me:

• Married dad in my mid-40s, living in the Seattle area (happy to swap pics once we connect)
• 5’10”, 175 lbs, in good shape, salt-and-pepper full head of hair, brown eyes
• Thoughtful, smart, kind, and as people have said, “handsome and cute” for my age (not bragging, just trying to paint a real picture)
• Career-wise, I’m climbing fast, but my personal life is more complex, with a dead bedroom situation (If you can relate, I feel for you)
• Outdoorsy: I bike, play pickleball, work out regularly, and enjoy spending time outside
• Into meaningful reads (recently loved Man’s Search for Meaning), and I enjoy good food and great company (not much of a drinker, but I’ll never turn down an interesting conversation)
• Drug- and disease-free, grounded, and genuinely curious about the world
• Discreet, respectful of boundaries, and easy to talk to.

What I’m Looking For:

• I’m not looking for a quick fling. I’m seeking an emotional connection first and foremost. If there’s chemistry, let’s see where it goes, but this is about something real—not just physical.
• I want someone who’s curious about life and willing to take a risk to find something that feels real.
• A friendship first, where we can really connect and enjoy each other’s company—without the pressure, just real conversation and a shared vibe.
• If we both feel a spark, I’m open to exploring more, but only if we’re both on the same page.
• Someone who feels comfortable enough to be themselves, wants to be desired, and knows what they want.

About You:

• You’ve built a good life—loving family, solid career, and a strong sense of duty—but you know there’s more to life than just "good."
• You’re seeking something that sparks excitement and curiosity—something to break the monotony without disrupting your steady life.
• You’re within about two hours of Seattle, and you understand the need for discretion in this kind of connection.
• You’re looking for that hidden, wilder side of you to come out, something beyond the “dutiful” roles we all play in our day-to-day lives.
• You’re open to swapping pics early on and being respectful of each other’s time.

What I Want:

• One real, solid connection. I have a lot of friends, but I’m missing the kind of bond where I can truly be myself.
• I’m open to catching feelings because I don’t believe love is a limited resource—it’s something that grows when shared.
• This isn’t just about sex; it’s about finding someone who makes me feel alive and appreciated for who I really am.
• If you’re into fitness, that’s a bonus. I’m big into working out, biking, and pickleball, and I’d be happy to help you get better or just enjoy the activity together. Low effort, no pressure.

A Few FAQs:

• Have you tried therapy? Yes, I have. It’s been part of my journey, and I’m happy to share what I’ve learned if it’s relevant.
• Why not leave your marriage? I’m open to discussing why, but let’s save that for a private conversation.
• will you have time and energy? Yes, for the right person. If you are not that person, I will let you know early on and wont drag you along.
• Do you feel guilt? No. I have had a wonderful friend before. I felt guilty, I gate it lot of thought with my therapist and I am over it. This is what I want.
• What if we develop feelings for each other? That would be wonderful. I don’t believe love or affection is a limited resource. The more you give, the more it grows. I’m looking for someone who understands that and is ready to share in something meaningful.