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Married for over 14 years with two kids. Iām looking for someone who might relate to being in a long-term relationship where intimacy has faded over time. Around 12 years ago, the dynamic in my marriage shifted, and I found myself struggling to feel desired or connected. What began as a gradual decline in physical affection eventually led me to search for intimacy outside of my marriage, though Iāve tried to remain emotionally loyal.
My wife insists that everything is fine, that this is just āhow marriage is,ā but I canāt help but feel distantāsex is rare (about twice a month), and even more so is any form of affection like a simple touch, a kiss, or a compliment. It leaves me wondering if she even likes me anymore. Iāve asked her directly about her feelings, even asking if she might be gay, but she denies it.
I stay active, take care of myself, and maintain a healthy lifestyleāno drinking or drugs. Iām a devoted dad and a good friend. But in my marriage, it often feels more like being roommates than partners. Thereās affection on the surface, but nothing deeper. Itās painful and isolating, and at times, I wonder if this is all there is.
Iām not looking to disrupt my home life or cause harmāI just want to feel that deeper connection again, something thatās been missing for years. If you can relate to this and are looking for something discreet, where we start as friends, Iād love to hear from you. Lifeās too short to feel like somethingās missing when it could be so much more.
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