Tired of the dead bedroom situation, looking for someone to have an emotional and physical connection, ideally for a longer term relationship.

Married with kids, and not likely looking to change my situation anytime soon (although it would not be absolutely out of the question with a right partner that was open to same). I'm tired of the DB and would love to feel wanted and loved again, and to offer my love, attention, and passion This would not be my first relationship of this sort, but it is not like I have done this many times either. Would be best if you had some experience with this too, although not required.  Would be ideal if you were in northern or central Jersey or surrounding areas (eastern PA or south/ NY state bordering NJ), and are in a similar situation to mine.  Age around my age (38 to 54) would probably work best although not a dealbreaker if little bit younger or older. I don't have any preference race, shape, or body type wise. Please have regular availability to chat and be open to meet when schedules allow, but at least monthly.
I am 46, y/o male from northern New Jersey. blondish brown hair, grey eyes, 5ft9in, about 200lbs. While I am not exactly a model but fairly decent looking for my age. I work out regularly. I am not everyone's type, but I have been called handsome and easy on the eyes. Younger looking than my age. I am smart, educated, clean cut (no beard but would consider changing that if requested), career oriented. I love to read books, listen to all sorts of music, learn about history, and spend time outdoors.  Discreet, respectful, clean/hygienic, safe, sane. STD free. Overall,  I have a lot to offer to the right person.  Will share pics early on if asked.

Please include the nearest lake near you, so I know you are real, from Jersey, and have read my post.

If interested, message me. I will respond to all serious responses.

Thanks for reading!