I fell into this while trying to find what I needed that was lacking at home, I had a vague idea of what I wanted but no idea how to solidify that image and find it.  Over time and through many experiences I now understand what I would enjoy in another and what I’d like to provide for them.  When it all boils down at the end of the day I want us to care about each other, I want us to help each other be the best, and happiest, versions of ourselves.  Good morning texts, good night texts, asking about each others day, finding out what you’re making for dinner, if you need to vent and to just get the caring and understanding that is absent elsewhere.

I’m here and willing to put in the time, energy and effort.  To learn about you and understand you, to know what makes you happy and sad and equally open myself to you.  I am craving a mental and physical connection because I have been living in a desert of both for years now, it’s something I wouldn’t wish on anyone. 

Couple of bullet points-

·  Reliable - Dealing with flaky people is frustrating, if you’ve spent any amount of time on these subs you’ve already dealt with this uniquely frustrating personality quirk.  I’m here for you, to be the person you can speak with when you’re not getting the attention and consideration you need.  I will do my best to be that pillar of support.

·        Connection – I don’t want the online equivalent of a one night stand or to beg you for a naked picture within the first ten messages.  I want to develop a real connection with someone over time, to have someone I can rely on to be there for me as I will be there for them.  I’m not afraid ask how you’re feeling when we’re discussing something big that you have experienced and process with you

· Real – I am not looking to waste anyone’s time, I want to make a legit connection with someone and not play games with their emotions.  Nothing here is more crushing than putting in time with someone only for them to just disappear, I won’t ghost you if things aren’t working out.  I’m an adult, looking for adult relationship so I will end things like an adult so that you aren’t left to just deal with the unknown.

· Communication – At the end of the day, we’re looking for an emotional, mental and physical relationship.  If we’re being honest most of us are looking for a sexual connection (in whatever shape that is for you), and while I would be THRILLED for us to spend days on end in bed the reality is we aren’t (probably) independently wealthy and it most likely kill us, which is bad for OPSEC.  Being able to have a conversation with each other, to open up and share our thoughts is the way to make all this work.  I have talked with so many people looking for a willing and open communicator, only to find they can’t seem to follow up with more than half a sentence every 10-16 hrs.  

· Healthy and fit – Gotta release that pent up physical and emotional energy in a healthy way, so I lift, play sports and educate myself on global issues.  I work hard to stay healthy and fit, I also working on attractive but beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  Looking for someone who also appreciates taking care of themselves inside and out.

 If you’re looking for someone to build passion, friendship and trust with let’s talk and see what develops.  If you write I’m interested to see how you use “which” & “witch” in a sentence