Lansing is in Michigan. I can't edit the title.

I'm not sure how to find exactly what I'm looking for without typing out so much that anyone reading this gives up and calls the post long winded, but here's a shot.

I've done this before. You've done this before. Pick a reason for when it fizzles or sparks in a bad way. They become distant. They end up being unattractive to you and you awkwardly try to figure out how to say you're not interested or just slowly stop responding. They're really cool initially, but you figure out they're in it for reasons you're not cool with, or they're just boring when they're not flirty. I'm looking for none of these things to happen again. I don't think that's a tall ask if we both have a little transparency.

To be frank, I'm looking for love. I know, I know. We're not changing each other's situations. I don't want to mess up your life any more than you want to mess up mine. But, a wrench in the cogs would be something, wouldn't it? Butterflies and sneaky chats and meeting up just to be next to each other. Sending pictures and voice notes and developing inside jokes. That beautiful spark that comes from that first kiss and the cheesy feeling that comes from every kiss thereafter. I have to think the right person for me wants that same thing, and I have to think she's out there somewhere.

I have some nerdy interests like a little video games and a lot of reading. I have some sporty interests. I have some musical interests. Not huge into TV, but I don't hold it against anyone as long as they accept that I'm probably not going to watch their show that's "so good, I swear you'll love it." You should have interests and hobbies. I won't promise every waking second I have can be dedicated to chatting, and I don't want that from you. Coming back to each other after we've done what we want to do with details and pictures makes it even more fun. Someone who has a good life but wants a little extra would be ideal.

I don't necessarily have preference when it comes to age. Around my age would be good, but I've noticed that many people this age will talk about themselves to the point they become uninteresting and come off so lonely I feel bad.

It might be better if you have kids since I do but only because it clears up the availability thing. I won't talk much about mine and don't really want to hear about yours. If you don't have any, that's fine, but I'd ask you pardon my jealousy at you being able to do whatever you want. I also have no interest in saying anything bad about my spouse, and I don't want to hear anything bad about yours. We're on this thing for a reason. I can work out my issues with all that in therapy.

Size doesn't mean much either as long as you're healthy. I work out but am no Adonis. I'd say I'm a pretty attractive guy and attraction does matter regardless of what people say. I'm much more interested in your brain at first, though.

Overall, I'm quiet, reserved from people I don't think I'll get along with, and I like to use my brain. I've been called funny and hot, I've also been called stupid and ugly (all by the same person). White if it matters. Some tattoos if it matters. I also have the ability to travel within a reasonable distance.

This has gone on long enough. Tell me a joke and where about you are. Bonus if you're near Lansing, Kalamazoo, Battle Creek, etc. Share your discord if you'd like. Pictures are welcomed, but discretion is paramount and guaranteed.