In so many ways we’re the last people anyone would suspect of doing something like this. We’re both loyal, loving, thoughtful and kind. We work hard, take good care of the people around us, and seek the best in most situations. We’re both open-minded, open-hearted, passionate, and fun. We know how to take things in stride. But we also have our shit together. We’re dependable and competent, winning and wise. People look up to us and respect us. When friends or family (heck, sometimes even random strangers we’ve just met) aren’t sure what to do in a given situation, we’re the one ones they turn to for advice—and they’re almost always glad they did. We have a knack for seeing things clearly. We’re generous and helpful, discerning and real. We’re good parents. We have old souls. We strive to make the world a better place.

So how did we end up here? And what are we going to do about it?

For me, I’ve decided I need and want more than just all the things I try to do and make happen for other people. I want a friend and lover. Someone who gets me, and wants me, someone who delights in me for who and what I am. And I want to be that person for someone else. The safe place where you can be totally yourself, where you can let down your guard and know you’re not only accepted and adored but finally understood. A place where we can both laugh and breathe and be giddy and happy—even if only for a few hours at a time.

When I say it like that it seems so simple, and maybe if we’re lucky enough to find each other, it can be?

Some more about me: I’ve lived and traveled all over the world and it’s made me an open-minded and accepting person. I’m definitely left leaning politically and you should be too. I try to take care of myself physically and mentally, which includes regular exercise. (I’m not an obsessive gym rat by any means but I enjoy working out at least 2-3 times a week.) I’m fairly tall (6’1”) and attractive in that “hot for teacher” kind of way! I love music, traveling, art, discovering funky cafes, restaurants, and bars, and the outdoors. (Road trips that combine these plus a hot springs are the best!)

What else?

Physical touch is my love language so If we hit it off I’m going to want to meet in person. I’m not closed to something long-distance but would definitely prefer to see each other somewhat regularly. Sexually I definitely skew Dom so if you’re sub (or interested in exploring this side of yourself) we’ll probably get along really well. I have a fairly high profile job so discretion is important, but I also want a deep and honest relationship where we can be open with each other and share details of our lives. So establishing trust early is going to be important.

If you’re still reading and any of this has struck a chord, I’d love to hear from you!