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I kid, I kid! But now that you are here...
All in all, your life is pretty good. You arenāt looking to blow anything up, and you certainly arenāt interested in losing the family you have built over the past decades.
But, as time goes on we grow into who we really are. And that person sometimes needs a little bit of space to spread their wings. How awesome would it have been if your spouse was on the same trajectoryā¦ but alas, here we find ourselves in this spicy side of Reddit. Most will call it a mid-life crisis, but I'm beginning to think it is mid-life clarity.
If that sounds a bit like your life, šš». Iām pleased to meet you! We should get to know each other a little better.
I think we will get along well if you: enjoy engaging conversation, love to read great books, find a walk in the woods to be the best medicine, are past the point of caring what other people think, and are not willing to sacrifice physical connection as a wonderfully amazing part of being alive.
You will most likely find a good fit with me if you are into: a witty sense of humor, burly but well groomed lumberjack beards, gray hair in previously mentioned beards, and a good mix tape consisting of Willie Nelson, Billie Eilish, and Broadway Musicals. (Yes, I'm confused. Don't read into it).
So what is it, exactly, that I am after? Glad you askedā¦
The standard "not looking to change anybody's situation" song and dance. I love my family, and I hope you do too. But the grind of life is tough and I have learned a lot about who I am over the years. Sadly, my spouse is not in sync with all the things I want to experience.
I'm still wrestling with what to call it. Not a FWB and not a spouse 2.0. This is an "addition to", not a "replacement for" relationship. But it is a real relationship, just it it's own complicated way. I want the flirt and the feels. I want to dance around romance and find chemistry for the physical experience we are both missing.
This affair can look a lot of ways, but here is what I have in mind:
- Chats through the day, with a good morning and good night
- Daytime escapades, a few times a month-ish
- Sushi lunch dates, except for Taco Tuesdayā¦ of course
- A hike in the hills
- And hotel rendezvous when the time is right
And now for the fine print:
- Drama free, nobody is leaving anybody
- Super safe when it comes to hygiene and OPSEC, protecting your own family and not compromising mine trumps all else
- Message when we can, don't stress when we can't
- Within an hour or two of ATL
- Meetings and escapades mostly in the daytime working hours
- Married with kids
- You donāt hate your spouse, and you arenāt desperately lonelyā¦ you just need a little something more
Yes, it will be a little fantasy we create together. An escape from the drudges of reality. We will discover together what it feels like to throw aside all the preconceived expectations of how you should act, and just go after what you know you want. We will be each otherās breath of fresh air.
But at the end of the day, we know this only works if we stay true to what it actually is... so we put it back in the box and return to reality. Then keep the ember smoldering until the time comes to meet up again.
If you have made it this far, I guess you might as well slide on into my DMsā¦
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