I am a 29 year old male based in East London. It goes without saying but I am in a stable and happy longterm relationship, no kids and not looking to change :). I am here because of prolonged sexual neglect and dissatisfaction.

I understand that it takes two to create a DB despite being the one with higher libido and so for the past few years, I have done everything under the sun to work on myself and be supportive. From regular therapy sessions to reading books/listening to female/feminist-led podcasts about sexual intimacy to understand what I need to do to be a supportive partner. I bring this all up to signal that personal responsibility, authenticity and empathy are very important virtues. In turn, I have learnt a lot and actively deconstructing my social conditioning as a man.

My hobbies are photography, research (casual and academic), programming and gaming. I love listening to music and podcasts too (most of the mainstream genres but open to be put on too).

I love to cook too and love to keep everything neat and tidy. Apparently this is not common and so full disclosure, when watching movies/series, I love to actively watch and engage with the content.

We don’t have to share the same hobbies. I am mainly looking for someone who is genuinely interested in and proactive in getting to know me. Having an open mind and willing to try unfamiliar experiences is a great plus. Other traits that are important to me are good personal hygiene. You should expect the same from me.

Empathy, kindness, gentleness and cleanliness are virtues I do my best to live by everyday.

OpSec is quite literally a hobby and so I’ll be very discrete and will be keen to share any tips and learn from each other.

I am very mindful about Mental health and before anything else, tailoring my experience to meet your needs would be a priority and a desired trait.

Mutual satisfaction is a massive turn on. This is probably why we are all here, right? If it ever gets to it; I particularly love going down and taking my time. I love teasing and evoking that raw hunger that makes you want to get lost in each other. I take pleasure in exploring every inch of one’s body and desires, proactively or upon request. This also reflects my own desires and what I’d be seeking.

I’m very open minded and would always seek to try something at least once before deciding. Nonetheless, I have very good feedback regarding my “head game”. It’s a massive turn if my partner isn’t afraid to express their specific desires. The initial impression of being reserved will certainly be shuttered once my dominant/spontaneous shows up in the bedroom, or in public spaces ;)

If you got this far, thank you for taking the time 🙂